BI-Men Founder Moderator's Comments
When
a small brood of BI guys joined with me February 14, 1999 to found this BI-MEN
Worldwide Network - then just a few dozen men - now - at over 100,000 male members
worldwide - our two main themes were (and remain): "You
are NOT alone!" and the "Infinite Shades of GRAY" found and warmly welcomed at
our BI-Men Network worldwide.
Unlike many bisexual men's groups that limit their memberships to say: Closed-
Loop believers; or married men only; or BI and gay married men only; or such -
we have and will always welcome ALL adult men who wish to join our ranks.
IF you want to be here
- come on in! WHETHER YOU are: straight, bisexual, formerly bisexual, BI-curious,
or gay! "Infinite
Shades of Gray found in Male Bisexuals" As
one of the leading world authorities Dr. Fritz Klein (see www.bisexual.org) has
long noted bisexuals are to be found in three (3) main groupings:
A. "Gay/lesbian"
BISEXUALS B.
"BI" BISEXUALS C
."Straight" BISEXUALS
SO in gray terms - light gray, gray gray, and dark/charcoal gray bisexuals.
After several intense years
amongst many many thousands of male bisexuals who come and go - likely over a
quarter million bisexual men have come gone and stayed in our BI-MEN NETWORK in
recent years - I have found these MAIN stereotypes of male bisexuals. Of course,
there are MANY MANY more - but these would be the TEN (10) main ones.
A: The "Gay"
Bisexual Guys:
1. "BACK STREETS woe-man RON" is the male counterpart of heterosexual women
who seem to endlessly get themselves involved with married or otherwise paired
men. RON loves the intense sex with married men who do NOT get nearly as much
man to man action as RON does. RON may seem like a loner and tends to make each
of his "special guys" feel intense pleasure and feel "special" - but RON often
has a large "stable" of such married stallions as his own private stud farm. RON
all too often spends holidays alone as his guys almost all have family obligations
with wives and kids - but AFTER the holidays and after family vacations he is
the target of intense apres-SEX when his guys can slip away. RON may or may not
introduce his guys to 3-ways. He knows it is a dangerous play as he may just be
better off keeping each one to himself alone. RON has learned to keep looking
as even when his stud farm seems full-up - they come and they go for a variety
of reasons (guilt, divorce, move away, turn "gay" themselves, get a new gay fetish
of their own, turn into "IF IT MOVES MONTY" or ?????? RON is a big hit here at
the BI-MEN Network as he has his own place, values privacy and discretion, can
keep it ALL secret, is health-conscious, and is often quite a good listener, adviser
and confidante to our BI-MEN members. He is also often remarkably suited to keeping
the WIVES happy by putting out for horny husbands and with gift and date ideas!
2. "GAY GOOSE
GARY" - Gary seems like a very gay gay guy - and is most of the time. BUT
once in a blue moon he makes significant connections with heterosexual women and
may even marry them. He is a good friend to both men and women and his value as
such and as a good companion often with a great sense of humor is valued by both.
People will often remark - "Just when I finally concluded he was gay as a goose
he off and marries that straight woman!" GARY is most welcome here at BI-MEN
3. "FETISH FRANK"
- Frank has one (or more very "gay" fetishes which he loves to indulge in. When
in that gay setting he is totally at ease and very well-received by that gay subgroup.
He may be into: leather; s & m; water sports; rimming; bathhouses; tearoom sex;
bookstore sex; rest area sex; dad and son role-playing; coach and young athlete
role-playing; drag; lip-synch routines; docking; frottage; jock straps; military
men (camp-following); police' uniforms; construction workers; cock and ball torture;
bears & cubs; hairy guys; bondage and discipline - etc etc etc. The FETISH
list is almost if not endless. BUT there is something about that FETISH that drives
him wild and puts him into the gay bisexual camp! He is most welcome at BI-MEN
and is often a good adviser or guide as to his fetish.
B:
Bisexual" Bisexual Guys:
4. "SWINGER SAM" - Sam enjoys group sex of almost any kind whatsoever.
He is the type that just loves to check out an ORGY - of whatever kind - any time
one may take place. He loves the back room sex in bars in Amsterdam; the orgy
rooms in bath houses worldwide; the "meat rack" on Fire Island; the sand dunes
back of many hot beaches; cruisy parks and tea rooms that get group action; and
SWINGER parties of all types. Sam will talk his wife into SWINGING as he knows
that a broad almost any broad is his ticket to hot group action with the swinging
set. Single men are almost unwanted and aplenty in such groups. So he may well
spend countless hours and "bribes" sweet talking his little lady into venturing
into the swinger scene. AND WHEN SAM gets there - he does like men and women for
sex equally. BUT like many BI men the presence of women and even HIS OWN WOMAN
makes it easier to be AC-DC. Sam is most welcome here and is one of the first
to join a JACKS party at BI-MEN
5. "IF IT MOVES MONTY" - Monty will plow and get blown by anything that
moves. IF you have been in the army or a fraternity or such - there is always
one guy who would plow a snake if it moved. MONTY is highly oversexed and always
horny. The sex and the attractiveness of his quarry is rarely of any importance
to him. He may be homely or drop-dead gorgeous himself. In the MARINE CORPS you
often find this type - a gorgeous man-hunk-stud with a homely wife and plenty
of men in and out of the military who will put out for him in a New York minute.
He is not at all choosey so has a very active and diverse sex life. MONTY is often
quite good sex due to both his extensive experience and lack of hang ups that
many others have in life. He is MOST welcome here at BI-MEN
6. "CLOSED-LOOP LUKE" - is the BI version of "Prince Charming" in the "straight"
section. LUKE now has a whole world-view and philosophy. That includes one wife
and then one husband - the sandwich - with him in the midst of these two loving
mates. He is all for FAITHFUL MONOGAMY with both his loving wife and husband.
LUKE does not seem to go through too many women at all - but like our Prince Charming
he MAY (or may NOT) go through a lot of MEN on his way to that one male mate of
his dreams. LUKE in some ways is the most truly idealistic of our ten stereotypes
and more power to him. BUT for many it is an ideal both hard to find and to live
out day to day. LUKE is most welcome at BI-MEN and in recent years we have had
a few of our guys find their male matches here!
7. "EQUAL OPPORTUNITY BUCK" - is the Brad Pitt of BI bisexuals. He is an
attractive guy - physically at least - and throw in a nice personality and about
EVERYONE wants his bod for sex. In high school and college he could and did have
ANYONE he wanted. ODDLY he often does NOT have an overly strong sex drive. He
often provides sex to both men and women just to be nice! In a recent movie -
part of the humor was that all family members: father, mother; male teen and gal
teen ALL ADMITTED each WOULD sleep with Brad Pitt. Most folks would sleep with
BUCK and he is pretty obliging. He may NOT be very good at sex as others are so OBLIGING
to him, and he is not all that sexual himself. He may have a rather plain or homely
spouse and his guy sex pals may not be major hunks - because he really just has
a problem in saying NO to sex. BUCK is most most welcome at our BI-MEN NETWORK.
C.
STRAIGHT Bisexual Guys:
8. "LOOKY LOU" - Lou joins the BI-MEN to get the pics and websites to cruise
discreetly on the NET at home or work or both when no one is watching. He may
even be what gays have long-termed a "watch queen" - standing guard for illicit
locker room or public toilet sex; or a voyeur at rest areas or parks or adult
theaters and adult bookstores. Lou does NOT have any actual sex with other men.
He is for the most part HETEROSEXUAL save for a fascination with men sexually
(watching not actively doing a thing). In Nazi Germany his type got the PINK TRIANGLES
along with the real gays. One such guy questioned by cops after watching a straight
couple having public sex in a park - admitted he was really watching the guy and
his member doing the old in and out! LOU lurks in many many groups today. AND
he is most welcome here as well.
9. RIP VAN WINKLE - Rip is one of the very odd type of straight bisexuals
who just seems to wake up every 20 weeks or 20 months or 20 years with the very
shocking realization: "I just gotta have a dick today by heck!" AND come hell
or high water he finds one ASAP in an adult bookstore or theater or rest area
or bath house or PERSONALS or the NET. THEN.....he is sated and back to a nice
long sleep in hetero-land until the next such yearning arouses him. He may belong
to the BI-MEN and is often on NO MAIL status - as he only check in when it is
time for his "FIX". AND he is most welcome here too!
10. PRINCE CHARMING - Our PRINCE is all man's man - happily married - great
with the ladies - often a dashing "leading man" type himself. BUT he has one hidden
ardent desire to one day MEET HIS OWN PRINCE. Some day HIS prince will indeed
come - and come and come again. He is saving himself for this one true love. His
wife or gal has NO CLUE as to this secret fantasy nor does anyone else. He may
never actually find such a prince. BUT he looks and looks and looks. From time
to time he may "test drive" a noble fellow here or there. This PRINCE will court
prospects on the NET for months even years. He can be a long-term pen pal. He
will travel coast to coast for romantic meetings with prospects. Few actual men
could ever live up to these lofty expectations - but he SEEKS and SEEKS and often
never finds. IF he finds he may toss his wife over in a New York minute ONLY to
find that "idols indeed have feet of clay". SIGH! He is here SCOUTING all the
INTRO's and PERSONALS posted. He may reply to you ALWAYS demanding pics or very
graphic details - and may become an email pal for months. He too is most welcome
here and we wish him well.
Thank you for your interest here.
Best Wishes,
Stewart
("Mac") McCloud
Founder and Moderator
BI-MEN Worldwide
Network
NOW over 250,000 male members today!
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