in our sixth year - still all free and moving in on over 150,000 active
male members and thousands of bi couples - the Bi MEN NETWORK is still
devoted to an active and happy sex life for all of our many, diverse
BUT - in today's world that means SAFE SEX. IF you do not know that
by now - you are either a young fresh babe in the woods and should
leave as you need to be 18 to be a member here - or are a RIP VAN
WINKLE just stirring after 30 odd years of sleep!
This piece today is on SAFE SEX - for our "garden variety"
bisexual, bi-curious and gay members and bi couples who engage in
"ROUTINE" oral and anal sex. We are NOT discussing fringe
areas - as b & d, s & m, fisting, gang-rape scenes, any scenes
which involve bodily wastes or drawing blood or the inflicting of
We are talking about 80 per cent or more of the sex going on here
- between bi and gay men. AND we have and will always encourage our
Bi MEN membership to play - and play safely.
It is said in TODAY'S WORLD - that when you go to bed with someone
you are going to bed with everyone THEY have ever in their lives had
IF you are a Bi MEN MEMBER who fully intends to have at least one
more sex act with your wife in the future - YOUR WIFE is also going
to bed with this person and every person they have had sex with in
their lives before YOU!
AND it is also commonly said - a person today is only as good as their
last AIDS and STD test. Well - even that is not true - as test results
are SOON no longer wholly accurate (ie sex had since the test and
certain incubation periods, etc).
SO it is tricky out there. DO NOT KID YOURSELVES - it is a mine field.
So what is a horny sumbitch to do in the early 21st century? Well
if you are here with us - abstinence or just your WIFE alone or girlfriend
is likely NOT enough for you. IF it is you are lucky! We welcome the
many members here who are FAITHFUL to their partners and just enjoy
being part of the Bi Men.
We are FIRM BELIEVERS in a happy and active sex life at the Bi MEN
but a responsible sex life - either with ONE partner - or a series
of one partners - or an active, many partnered sex life!
You would not knowingly pass the BLACK DEATH, or leprosy, or cancer
on to loved ones or even casual sex partners. AIDS and many other
STD's are just far trickier and even more awkward for many folks to
We have long posted these bi-friendly SAFE SEX websites at the Bi
MEN and do so again in case you have any questions or concerns - and
to keep them handy. They are:
You can always find these in this PIECE under the "Wednesday's
Child" feature at the www.bimen.org
website and at our Bi MEN WINNERS feature there too.
SO WHAT TO DO THIS DAY AND AGE!
NOTE: The remarks below are by no means those of an EXPERT - see the
websites listed above. ALSO these comments regard "typical"
Bi MEN members here who are having some man to man action with with
other men: i.e. bisexual men, bi-curious men or gay men or threesomes
with bi couples or threesomes with two other men.
A. MONOGAMY i.e. one sex partner!
This is the old stand-by and works for most women and many men. SERIAL
MONOGAMY is today's model. If your beloved wife or husband of decades
dies - after a reasonable period about everyone is open to you moving
on to another mate hopefully for the rest of your life or theirs.
IF this 2nd mate dies then you are welcome to go for a 3rd!
But it is a fact of life that MALES want to spread their seed and
even spray their urine around - whether marking their territory or
just showing their stuff. MEN are ALLEY CATS - TOM CATS. Face it.
Many women if not today's society would like to turn us into lap dogs
or house cats but men are horny sum bitches who often like a little
"something strange" - male or female
now and again.
IF MONOGAMY works for you - FINE! Congratulations - you are saving
a lot of time and energy - worry and even money NOT looking for "strange"
B. STRANGE SEX in TODAY'S WORLD!
LURKING - JO - PORNO - VOYEURISM
Many of our members enjoy getting their jollies or getting OFF by
themselves with just watching, reading, or whatever. That is just
fine and SAFE SEX to boot for the most part. It can be taken
to extremes like anything else. 12 hours a day viewing PORN and masturbating
is excessive. IF
that is you - cut back NOW. OK?
MASTURBATION - Jack Off Partners:
We have for example a very active Bi LA JACKS Group here in my area
(Southern California). For about two or three years I hosted monthly
"Long Beach Lunch Bunch" JO PARTIES at
my place. Joining a JO club may be for you. There are many worldwide.
Some like the NY JACKS are quite famous.
Getting together once a month or so for a circle jerk seems to work
well for many bi married men. Some guys are happy to find one or two
JO buds to masturbate with in private once or twice a month. Doing
this privately and discreetly regularly can work fine.
Some members like to go to BATHS or ADULT BOOKSTORES or to some private
sex clubs - and masturbate with other men. OR get a hand job. This
is fine - but be careful of arrest if you are in a PUBLIC PLACE and
the local authorities are not amused.
MASTURBATION - alone or mutual is SAFE SEX and can work for many.
ORAL SEX - Giving or Getting or Both!
I FRANKLY am on the side of the big divide that ORAL SEX for the guy
getting a blow job is safe most of the time (ie your member is not
cut or bleeding). This in regard to AIDS.
I am also on the side of the other big divide that ORAL SEX for the
guy giving a blow job is safe most of the time if he has not just
had a root canal or massive dental surgery; does not have bleeding
gums or trench mouth; or open bleeding cuts in his mouth or on his
lips or near his mouth.
This too is as regards HIV infection.
Do discuss your HEALTH and HIV status and STD situation with any potential
oral sex partner. EVEN though I believe the above is generally TRUE
I am frankly ill at ease to have an HIV
positive guy suck my piping hot member and I do not want to suck off
a guy who honestly admits he is HIV positive.
PEOPLE DO LIE or they do not know or choose not to know. SO if oral
sex is in fact safe most of the time - that certainly helps out a
bit with the LIARS or the many who are CLUELESS.
USE YOUR INTUITION. Your gut always knows first. The body knows first.
IF you have "bad vibes" about having sex with ANY PERSON
- bow out. Give a stupid excuse but bow out.
Few people will RAPE YOU - so just give some lame excuse! "OH
GOD, I have to get back to work - pick up my laundry - pay a parking
ticket!" "I think I am going to heave - sorry - I don't
want to puke on that fine member of yours!" Race away or hide
in the rest room and make heaving sounds!
Supposedly you can catch more germs and diseases FRENCH KISSING most
strangers than giving out free blow jobs to them. URINE is very clean.
You'd be better to use your urine to put in contact lenses in your
eyes than your own saliva.
IF you want to use condoms for ORAL SEX fine. If this is a REQUIREMENT
with you - be sure to specify this early on in any discussions with
potential sex partners. Some can get very very irritated some time
later at the PLACE of DESIGNATION to find out you do enjoy BLOWING
on a BALLOON or want them to do so and plan to insist on it. For many
MEN oral sex with
CONDOMS is OK - but for other men it is just not worth the bother.
TAKING THE LOAD? SWALLOWING?
If you are PERFORMING ORAL SEX (fellatio) without a condom - in my
mind it is up to you to take the load or to swallow or have them explode
on your face or chest. The HIV virus can not
live in air or sunlight - but ORAL SEX can put you at risk for other
STD's and I suggest you read up on these and also ASK LOTS OF QUESTIONS
of your potential sex partners.
ORAL SEX as regards RIMMING!
The person having this lovely experience DONE to them has little to
worry about other than razor burn from an unshaved admirer. The active
mouth does - I urge you to read up on this. But this piece is not
about sex involving waste products.
ORAL SEX as regards Golden Showers!
As noted URINE is in fact very clean. IF you want to do this - get
in the shower or bath tub and have at it - in either role or both!
THEN take a real shower NEXT.
ANAL SEX TODAY _ Condoms a must!
I do not care what they tell you or how many SEX TEST RESULTS they
show you - if you plan to get POKED - have a good strong CONDOM with
water-based lube at the ready. INSIST on THIS.
IF you are the GREEK "TOP" and they want to "bareback"
- FORGET IT. If they bareback for you - how many others have they
barebacked for lately. Maybe they even go to gay bath houses
and lay on their tummies with the door open for HOURS ON END letting
every piping hot member in the place plow them bareback. IF they BAREBACK
for a new partner = you are not "special".
At Bi MEN NETWORK - we do NOT allow ANY postings for barebacking or
bareback anal sex. This is now very popular with many teenaged and
20's young men - who have not seen MANY of their friends die of AIDS.
GET USED to CONDOMS for all anal sex. Carry a spare or two with you.
Get the water-based lube to tote around too. DO NOT USE OILS or oil-based
lubes. They can bust the condom - tear it - much more easily in mid-sex.
Try many condoms - try the colored ones - turn your white pal into
a big black buck with a black colored condom! Try a FRENCH TICKLER!
Remember that CONDOMS can also make the anal sex act LAST LONGER.
If you have problems with premature ejaculation or have a hair trigger
use condoms to make SEX last longer for you and your partner both.
Many guys can tell their wives they want to use FRENCH TICKLERS or
condoms to liven up the sex and make it last longer.
IF nothing else as a TOP view the condom as YOUR buddy to prevent
"Butterfinger SYNDROME" or worse - "Attack of the Big
Baby Ruth" !!! Sadly many newbie bisexual men do not have the
best douche set-ups at home! Why ruin a first date with all
that muss and fuss? Toss that pesky used condom away!
SO condoms are a must for ANAL SEX.
FINGERING the ANUS & DILDO PLAY
This can be fun too and is generally safe. Consider fingering your
buddy's hole while you JO him or give him the BJ of his life.
I have ALWAYS told all women I know who would listen to me that half
the husbands on earth would not stray if their wives would only give
them this finger now and again during sex play. Do NOT finger a dark
dirty rectum with a finger with an open cut! DILDOS should be cleaned
after each use - did I have to tell anyone that???
OK! well that is it - we could go on and on and on.
BUT PLAY SAFELY - and be sure to "interview" new sex partners
about their HIV status and STD status before sex. IF you have not
played with a guy for quite a while - RE-INTERVIEW HIM. SO make disclosure
yourself to let him know - then ask him about his situation.
Have SEX IN PRIVATE - not in public. Ask yourself as we did before
- "Is this a place of ASSIGNATION or a place of DESIGNATION?"
If you would not have sex with your wife there - why are you risking
arrest with someone else there?
The Bi MEN NETWORK does not encourage or condone public sex. We view
SEX as a private matter between consenting adults - done in private!
Have fun - get some - get any! Safely! Live to root another day -
and another decade! Keep it up and keep at it!
Stewart ("Mac") McCloud
Founder & Moderator
The Bi MEN NETWORK
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